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Beyond Karma: Ego, Suffering, and What the Universe Really Tests

Do you believe in karma?

The idea of karma has always sat uneasily with me. On the surface it feels simple, almost tidy. Be decent. Do not be cruel for sport. Do not treat people like they are disposable. The universe will eventually even the score. If you are rude, selfish, or vicious, something will come back around and collect the debt. That version of karma is easy to repeat because it sounds moral and useful. It also flatters us a little. It suggests the world is keeping score, that character is not wasted, that meanness is not free.

Then the obvious objection arrives and the whole neat story starts to buckle. What about children? What about babies who die of disease before they have had a chance to form a lasting thought, let alone a pattern of action? If karma is personal payback aimed at the child, the idea becomes grotesque. A three-month-old does not have a ledger of cruelty. A toddler with leukemia is not being taught a lesson about last year’s gossip. I do not believe the sick child is the one being sentenced. That picture is too small and too cruel. It turns a baby into a moral invoice.

A winding mountain trail leads through lush hills toward a glowing sunset beneath stormy clouds.

What I do believe is harder, and I know how it sounds. I think the test is aimed at the parents. I think the punishment, if that is the word, is meant for them. Not because every grieving mother or father is secretly a monster. I am not saying that. I am saying the blow does not land on the child as a completed person with a history of choices. The child is the point of impact. The parents are the ones left standing in the blast. They are the ones who have to keep living inside a world that just proved it can take the one thing they would have died to protect. That is a test of a different order. It does not ask what a baby deserved. It asks what the adults become when the worst thing they can imagine stops being imaginary.

I hold that view loosely because I cannot prove it, and because it is ugly enough that I would rather be wrong. But the popular story — that disease is the child’s karma — has never made sense to me. The child’s body is too new to be the courtroom. The parents’ lives are where the sentence continues. Sleep, marriage, faith, work, the sound of a quiet house, the question of whether they still believe anything is watching. That is where the weight stays.

A rustic woodland balance scale contrasts natural treasures with scattered broken mirrors.

The same cheap version of karma gets applied to ego. A lot of people talk as if walking around with an inflated sense of yourself is a spiritual crime, something the universe will eventually tax. Be humble. Shrink. Remember you are nothing special. I have heard that sermon my whole life, and I do not buy it. I personally believe ego is good. Not the kind that needs to crush other people to feel tall, but the kind that looks in the mirror and decides, without apology, that you are the greatest. That belief has helped me more than being “humbled” ever did. Being told I was a piece of shit never made me kinder, stronger, or more useful. It just made me smaller. Believing I was exceptional gave me a reason to act like the work mattered.

I think the universe tests us. Not always individually, and not always fairly in the way a courtroom is fair. Sometimes the test is private: loss, illness, humiliation, a long season of being unseen. Sometimes it is public and collective. A flood, an earthquake, a plague, a famine. Those events do not look to me like the universe picking out the guilty children and smashing them. They look like pressure applied to the people who have to answer for what happens next. Pressure builds diamonds. Who runs toward the wreckage. Who hoards. Who lies. Who builds again. Who uses the disaster as an excuse to become smaller. In the case of a sick child, the wreckage is a crib, a hospital hallway, a diagnosis. The test is not the infant’s character. The test is whether the parents collapse into bitterness, vanish into numbness, turn on each other, or somehow remain capable of love in a world that just showed them it does not negotiate.

Rough stones and brilliant diamonds illustrate how pressure can create lasting value.

That is not the same as saying the suffering is good. It is not. The point is not that a dying child is a gift wrapped in pain. The point is that the event exposes the real architecture of the people left behind. Comfort hides it. This kind of grief does not.

There is an old line that keeps coming back to me: the toughest soldiers always have the heaviest cross to bear. It mixes two languages, military and religious, but the meaning is plain enough. Capacity and burden often travel together. The person who can carry more is often given more to carry. Not because the universe is sadistic for sport, but because weight reveals strength that lighter loads never would. I will not pretend that makes a child’s death just. It does not turn a nursery into a proving ground for the baby. If there is a soldier in that picture, it is the parent. The heaviest cross is not laid on the one who never got to live long enough to understand the metaphor. It is laid on the ones who have to carry the body of the story afterward.

Ego belongs in that picture too. A crushed self does not carry a heavy cross well. A person who has been trained to think they are worthless will fold under pressure and call the folding humility. I would rather go into the test believing I am built for it. That does not mean I think the universe owes me a soft life. It means I refuse to enter difficulty already defeated. If I ever had to stand where those parents stand, I would rather meet it as someone who still believes he is capable of greatness than as someone who spent years practicing self-erasure and then called that wisdom.

Maybe that is why karma never quite settled in my mind in its popular form. The slogan wants a clean moral physics. Do wrong, get hit. Do right, get shielded. Get proud, get slapped down. The child gets sick because the child earned it. Life does not behave that way. Good people drown. Vicious people die rich and admired. Infants get sick. Whole towns vanish in weather. And sometimes the blow that looks aimed at the smallest person in the room is actually aimed at the adults who have to outlive it.

If there is any pattern at all, it seems slower, wider, and less personal than the slogan — except in this one terrible sense, which feels personal to the bone. The child is not being punished for thoughts they never had. The parents are the ones inside the trial. The universe, if it is doing anything, is not grading a baby. It is asking what kind of people remain when the thing they loved most is placed on the altar and not given back.

I still think we should be better. Not because a cosmic clerk is watching the receipt printer, but because cruelty adds weight to a world that already has more than enough. Kindness does not guarantee safety. It does not buy immunity for your children. An honest ego does not guarantee safety either. Nothing does. What remains is the manner of the response. And if the universe is testing anyone in the death of a sick child, I do not think it is the child. I think it is the parents — and, after them, everyone who watches and decides whether to look away, explain it too quickly, or admit that some tests are not meant to make us humble. They are meant to show us whether we can still stand.

September 26, 2026
Coincidences: Are They Signs from the Universe?

What’s the weirdest coincidence you’ve ever experienced?

The Universe Doesn’t Whisper Twice

I do not believe in coincidences. Not the small ones that make you smile and shrug, and not the large ones that rearrange your life. If something is meant to happen, it will happen. It will find the crack in the schedule, the delayed train, the wrong turn that somehow becomes the right street. It will arrive wearing the face of chance so that those who need to dismiss it can do so without discomfort. I have stopped dismissing it.

Everything is a sign from the universe. Not in the loud, cinematic way people imagine when they talk about destiny. There is no booming voice, no sky writing, no sudden spotlight. It is quieter than that. A whisper. A particular song playing at a particular moment. A sentence overheard in a café that answers a question you have not yet asked out loud. A person appearing in your path with the exact piece of information, or the exact kindness, or the exact friction you needed. Most people walk past these things. They call them random. They keep their eyes on the ground and their minds on the next task. The whisper is easy to miss when you have already decided the world is only noise.

I used to miss it too. I treated life like a series of isolated events that happened to me rather than through me. Something fell through and I called it bad luck. A conversation ended abruptly and I called it timing. Even my brain injury somehow managed to lead me to my twin flame. I could just shrug it off and say that my brain blew up because of a bad diet, stress, bad luck, a body that finally called in a debt I had been ignoring. That version of the story is tidy. It keeps the event inside the realm of cause and effect I can name. It lets me treat the injury as an accident that interrupted my life instead of a rupture that redirected it. But if I tell it that way, I erase the chain that followed. I would never have found myself scrolling my life away in the aftermath, half-present, half-searching, desperate for a face or a voice that felt like home. I would never have been cracked open enough to look that hard. I would never have been still enough, or raw enough, or lonely enough in the particular way that made recognition possible when it finally arrived.

Dried leaves, dark berries, and fine threads create a moody autumn-inspired still life.

The injury did not feel like a gift when it happened. It felt like theft. It took language, stamina, certainty, the old version of myself that knew how to move through a day without having to invent the day from scratch. And still, something in that wreckage made a path. Not because suffering is noble. Not because pain is always a teacher we should thank on the spot. Because the life I had been living was not going to bring me to that person. The uninjured version of me was too occupied, too armored, too convinced she already knew the shape of her story. The universe did not cause the injury so that a romance could bloom. I do not need the story to be that clean. What I know is simpler and stranger: the injury happened, the searching began, and the person who felt like a missing frequency appeared inside that searching. To call the whole sequence a coincidence would require me to pretend the seeking never mattered.

The more I paid attention, the more the pattern revealed itself. Not a rigid script. Not a promise that every desire will be granted or every wound will be explained. Something subtler: a conversation between the inner life and the outer world. When I am restless, the universe sends restlessness back to me in the form of unexpected delays and unfinished conversations, as if to say, sit with this. When I am ready to move, doors that were locked for months swing open with almost embarrassing ease. People I needed to meet appear in places I had no logical reason to be. Opportunities arrive wearing the clothes of inconvenience. Losses arrive wearing the clothes of protection I only recognize later.

A winding woodland trail emerges from shadow as golden sunlight breaks through stormy clouds.

It is easy to romanticize this and turn it into a slogan. “Trust the universe.” “Everything happens for a reason.” Those phrases can become another way to avoid looking closely. I am not interested in comfort slogans. I am interested in the texture of the moments themselves. The way a certain light falls across a room at the exact second a decision crystallizes. The way a stranger’s offhand comment lodges in the mind and will not leave until you act on it. The way the same number (17,27,37), the same image, the same phrase keeps appearing until you finally stop and ask what it is pointing toward.

Many people fail to notice because noticing requires a kind of stillness that modern life does not reward. We are trained to explain things away. Coincidence is a tidy category. It lets us keep our sense of control. If the meeting was random, then we remain the authors of our story. If the meeting was a sign, then something larger is participating, and that is both comforting and unsettling. It means we are not as separate as we pretend. It means the world is speaking, and we have been talking over it.

I have learned to treat the whisper with more respect. Not superstition. Not the desperate search for meaning in every fallen leaf. A quieter discipline: when something repeats, I listen. When an opportunity arrives wrapped in inconvenience, I consider whether the inconvenience is the point. When a person crosses my path more than once without an obvious reason, I stop assuming it is nothing. Sometimes it is nothing. Sometimes the universe is simply dense with possibility and not every thread is meant for me. Discernment still matters. But I no longer start from the assumption that the thread is accidental.

If something is meant to happen, it will happen. That sentence used to sound passive to me, as if I could sit still and wait for life to deliver itself. I still kind of hate it when my boyfriend approaches our relationship path this way. But it is not an excuse for inaction. It is a recognition that timing has its own intelligence. Effort still matters. Showing up still matters. Doing the work still matters. But the work is not only the visible kind. There is also the work of becoming the kind of person who can recognize the sign when it arrives, and the kind of person who can act on it without needing the entire map first.

The Milky Way glows above a mountain trail traced by flowing light trails.

The universe does not shout. It does not compete with the noise we generate. It waits. It repeats itself politely. It leaves small, persistent traces for those willing to look up from their phones and their plans and their certainty that they already know how the story is supposed to go. Most people will keep walking. That is their right. I have decided I would rather not miss the whisper again.

It has been speaking the whole time. I was simply too busy calling it coincidence.

August 29, 2026
From Midnight Prayers to Quiet Surrender: A Love Story That Still Confuses Everyone

What’s a promise you made to yourself that you’ve actually kept?

Ever since I was a little self-conscious preteen, the nights felt longer than they should have. I would lie in bed with the covers pulled up to my chin, staring at the ceiling filled with glow in the dark stars, and beg the universe—quietly, desperately, almost bargaining—for one simple thing: that the teasing would stop. (that I would be good enough).That people like my cousin would finally leave me alone. The words were never spoken out loud, but they lived in the space between my ribs and the soft glow of the stars. I wanted to shrink, to disappear, to become someone no one felt the need to pick apart. Those silent pleas were the first contracts I ever tried to write with fate.

A journal lies open on a wooden desk beside a glowing candle and a cup of coffee, creating a warm writing atmosphere.

What followed felt almost inevitable. The anorexia arrived. I literally disappeared. Along with it came the exhausting performance of people-pleasing—smiling when I wanted to cry, agreeing when every cell in me screamed no, molding myself into whatever shape might earn a little peace. I learned to measure my worth in the empty spaces on my plate and the approval of others. The universe was listening and it seemed to answer in complicated ways.

Years later, the prayers changed. I no longer asked only to be left alone. I began begging for a life that did not require me to lie to the people I loved most. The lies about food, about fullness, about “I’m fine, I already ate,” had become a second skin I could no longer wear without choking. I was hurting everyone around me and it pained my people-pleasing-little heart. So I stopped. I stopped caring about anything. No matter how much I studied, starved etc. I was still not good enough. So I told the truth. I let the food in. And my body, in its own fierce and complicated way, responded. I gained twice the weight I had once fought so hard to lose. Of course there were other factors—grief, a heartbreak, not caring about anything anymore and the slow unraveling of old survival patterns—but the scale still delivered its blunt verdict. That heavier body felt, for a long time, like a sad existence I had somehow invited. Yet even in the middle of that discomfort, I still talked to the universe. Still begged.

These days my midnight conversations with the universe have narrowed to a single subject: him, and the future we are building. The old desperate bartering has softened. It seems, against every earlier fear, to have worked. The life I once begged for—one without the constant weight of deception—has arrived, soon I will be wrapped in ordinary mornings and the steady presence of a man who sees me. Still, I am learning a new practice: to stop negotiating so hard and simply go with the flow. To meet each experience without immediately trying to reshape it into something more acceptable or more controlled.

A dazzling swirl of luminous cosmic energy in deep space; symbolizing confusion turning to clarity

I have, somehow, regained a surprising amount of agency over my physical appearance. The mirror no longer feels like an enemy I have to outwit. I can choose how I present myself, how I move through the world in this body that has carried so much history. And while I pour myself fully into the role of housewife—cooking, tending, creating a home that feels soft and lived-in—our love story continues to puzzle almost everyone who watches it unfold. People tilt their heads. Relatives exchange glances. Strangers on the periphery of our life seem quietly bewildered by how we met , by the “plan for our future.”

Perhaps that confusion is part of the point. We are figuring it out. The path from a scared preteen whispering into the dark, through years of restriction and performance, through weight regained and truths finally spoken, even through stroke recovery was never going to look tidy from the outside. What matters is the quieter internal shift: the prayers that once begged for escape have become quiet with hope and trust. The bartering has eased into something closer to trust. And while the onlookers keep trying to solve the puzzle of us, I am learning, day by day, to stop solving everything myself—to simply live inside the story as it is, one honest meal, one ordinary morning, one unforced moment at a time. So clearly the universe and I have quite the relationship. The difference is now that I am going with the flow. Trusting that it knows my heart and will deliver what is best.

August 1, 2026
Embrace the Summer Solstice: A Celebration of the Season

I love the Summer time— and I really love celebrating. Summer solstice is my ideal. It is finally here — the longest day of the year, the sun’s victory lap, and the official middle finger to cold, dark, depressive days. My favorite goal for me and my man is to be out here treating it like the whimsical rave it was always meant to be.

In ancient history, midsummer (the celebration of the summer season) was dedicated to Pagan gods, fertility, crops etc. but I do not see why we should not be celebrating the solstice in the religious sense (thanking God’s/the Universe’s creation).

I am talking quiet little picnics with iced drinks and polite conversation. I also want bonfires that scare the neighbors. I want to stay up until the sky finally gives up and turns dark (which, thanks to the solstice, feels like never). I want to chase the last rays of sunlight. Because this is the one day the universe hands us maximum daylight and says, “Go be reckless, animals.”

A couple enjoys a sunset picnic in a vibrant wildflower meadow

Ancient cultures got it right. They lit massive fires, danced until they dropped, mated in the fields, and basically celebrated the sun. Modern life turned it into “wear white linen and drink rosé on a rooftop.” Cute. But weak. I am here for the chaos edition.

We start at sunrise like lunatics who respect the assignment. (Iced) coffee, loud music, minimal clothing. We drag ourselves outside because the sun is literally showing off and we are not wasting a single golden hour. Then it is beach, lake, rooftop, forest — anywhere the light hits hardest.

A glowing bonfire lights up a colorful meadow at dusk with people nearby

We eat: grilled everything, fresh fruit that drips down your arm, cold wine or champagne because yes, we are always on that bottle-a-night agenda.

At night? Bonfire mandatory. Even if it is a little fire pit in the backyard, I want my Americana s’more snack. Throw in some herbs, some music that makes your ancestors proud, and dance like the veil between worlds is thin (because on solstice it kinda is). Light sparklers. Howl at the sky. Jump over the flames if you are brave enough. Make out like teenagers because the sun blessed the whole day (and season).

Life is mostly gray office lighting and existential dread. The summer solstice is one of the few times the planet throws us a proper party. The sun is at its strongest, the earth is fertile, and everything feels electric. Do not spend it folding laundry or doing the mundane.

Get outside. Get loud. Get a little unhinged. Burn something. Fuck someone. Worship the light while it lasts because in six months we will be back in the void, writing about seasonal depression.

This is our peak. Our longest day. Our reminder that even in this clown timeline, the sun still shows up and cooks the planet just to watch us thrive.

So celebrate like you mean it.

Strip down. Heat up. Light it up.

Happy solstice (I am waiting to properly celebrate with him).

See you at the bonfire. Bring champagne.

A radiant sun surrounded by glowing floral motifs in a cosmic background

June 22, 2026