Kat’s Musings

Tag: physical therapy

  • I Cannot Erase Any Part of My Life

    I Cannot Erase Any Part of My Life

    If you could erase one event from your history, what would it be?

    There are days when the weight of everything I have lived through presses so heavily on my chest that the temptation to rewrite history feels almost unbearable. I catch myself wondering what it would be like to go back—to delete the chapters filled with pain, the choices I regret, the nights I barely survived. Yet every time that thought surfaces, I stop myself cold. I cannot erase any part of my life. Because if I did, I would not have met him. The love of my life.

    It is a strange and beautiful paradox, is it not? The very path that brought me to my lowest points is the same one that led me straight into his arms. Every wrong turn, every heartbreak, every season of darkness carved the version of me that was ready to recognize him when he appeared. Had I skipped the struggle, I might never have developed the depth, the resilience, or the quiet hunger for real connection that allowed me to see him—and to be seen by him in return.

    Winding path through woodland with autumn leaves, spring flowers, and distant green hills
    A winding woodland path leads through autumn leaves and spring wildflowers toward sunlit hills.

    I know I am not where I need to be in life. My recovery is still a work in progress, messy and nonlinear. Some mornings I wake up feeling strong, only to find myself slipping by afternoon. There are still triggers I have not fully disarmed, still patterns I catch myself repeating, still days when the old version of me tries to reclaim the driver’s seat. Progress is not a straight line; it is a spiral. I revisit the same lessons at higher altitudes, learning them more gently each time. And while I can acknowledge that I am not yet the healed, steady person I aspire to become, I also know this truth with absolute clarity: I would not trade a single moment of the journey that brought me here.

    Because “here” includes him. Even if he is not physically here.

    He did not arrive after I had everything figured out. He showed up in the middle of the unfinished story. He has seen the raw edges of my recovery—the days I struggle, the moments when old “wounds” reopen without warning, the quiet battles I still fight behind a brave face. And somehow, instead of turning away, he stays He stays even though no one wants this. To be a part of this.. Yet, he holds space for the parts of me that are still healing. In his presence I feel both completely known and completely safe, a rare combination I never believed I would find.

    Looking back, I can trace the invisible thread that connects every hardship to this love. The loneliness that came with my disability taught me how to cherish companionship. The heartbreak (that I received from my own family) taught me what I would never again settle for. The rock bottom taught me that I am worth fighting for—and that lesson made me capable of receiving the kind of love that does not demand perfection, only honesty. If I had erased the pain, I would have erased the soil in which this relationship took root.

    So I choose, again and again, to keep the whole story. The beautiful and the broken. The triumphs and the near-misses. The version of me who fell is the same version who eventually looked up and found him standing there. I may still be climbing toward the place I need to be in my recovery, but I carry no desire to rewrite the map that led me to this love.

    I cannot erase any part of my life.
    And more than that—I no longer want to, despite the fact that I still get frustrated and incredibly sad/ angry (I just do my best to be positive about it).

  • My deepest passion is nutrition — but ultimately, it’s all for him

    What are you passionate about?

    He is the prize at the end of the journey. To fully receive that gift and build the life I dream of with him, I have made my health non-negotiable. Nutrition is not just a hobby for me; it is something I can wax poetic about for hours with genuine excitement. I have explored it all — from the MAHA movement (seed oils, fluoride, ultra-processed additives, and all the hidden toxins) to Ray Peat’s principles and everything in between. I have lived the experiments myself: vegan, gluten-free, paleo, keto. I have been underweight and overweight. Through trial and error, I have learned what truly makes the body and mind thrive.

    Bright multicolored heart-shaped light swirl in starry cosmic background
    A glowing, multicolored heart-shaped swirl glimmers vividly in space.

    A brain injury years ago left me with some lasting effects I can be self-conscious about. It does not stop me from loving deeply or building a lasting relationship— as seen in my current form attracting him (thankfully, the “disability” does not seem to bother him at all), but I still carry that quiet desire to show up as my strongest, healthiest self. I want to move through life with ease — for me, and especially for him.

    Currently. Wifely duties from afar.

    Because more than anything, I long to be his perfect little housewife. I can already manage it beautifully with one hand, but two steady hands would let me pour even more love into our home. And yes — almost every girl dreams of the aisle. So I am committed to walking strong, not just so I can hold his hand while we stroll down the street or along the beach, but so I can walk down that damn aisle toward him, radiant and ready for forever.

    Two illuminated houses on mountain cliffs linked by a glowing light trail under starry sky
    Love from a Distance.
  • Defying Disability: My Daily Act of Rebellion

    Defying Disability: My Daily Act of Rebellion

    Every single morning, I whisper sleepy sweet nothings to my man. After that, I rise with fire in my veins. I spend the entire day fighting against the disability that constantly tries to drag me down.

    I push this stubborn, trembling body to its absolute breaking point. I lean hard against the bathroom counter while brushing my teeth. My legs shake as I take selfies for him in the mirror. I refuse to let weakness win. In the kitchen, I grip the edge of the counter. I make my espresso with gritted teeth. My knees threaten to snap back beneath me. I refuse to constantly sit in a wheelchair. I refuse to strap on those ugly, soul-crushing leg braces that would mark me as conquered.(Only HE is allowed to do that!).

    A physical therapist once looked me dead in the eye. She suggested I stop relying on my mother to drive me to appointments. She calmly recommended I call a WHEELCHAIR VAN! It would pick me up and drop me off. She acted like I was some fragile invalid. The words barely left her mouth before I shut that shit down. I was not feeling it. The idea of being loaded and unloaded like cargo made my blood boil. The thought of sitting in a wheelchair instead of the seat of a car was infuriating. I told her no, thank you, and never went back. Now I get down onto the floor everyday and do my own exercises, No van needed. I refuse to give in. I refuse to let anyone reduce me to a scheduled pickup in a van built for surrender.

    Life keeps trying to force me onto my ass. There is even a goddamn chair sitting right there in my shower like a permanent joke . Most days I have no choice but to sit under the hot water like a broken doll while it cascades over me. But the only time I truly get to stand—proud, naked, water streaming down my body—is when my man steps in behind me, his strong hands gripping my hips as he holds me upright so I can clean myself. I love the way he steadies me, the way his hard body presses against mine, keeping me vertical through pure possessive strength while steam fills the air. In those heated moments I feel rebelliously alive, even as my legs scream and tremble beneath me.

    I face that humiliating chair and the endless war with gravity everyday. Yet, I reject every medical enhancement. I refuse every synthetic crutch and modern healthcare. I do not believe in any of it. If it is meant to be, it is meant to be. If sickness is coming for you, it will find you. It does not matter how many pills, injections, gene therapies, or experimental treatments they invent. All the advances in medicine are nothing more than dressed up as progress.

    I will not be synthetically made better.  
    I refuse to be rebuilt, patched, upgraded, or artificially propped up like some defective machine.  
    Only the natural way.  
    Only the forever way.

    And my hands? That is another story. For over fifteen years now, I have had the use of only my right hand. My left hand is dead weight, a silent traitor that sways useless at my side while I fight like hell. I have mastered one-handed shoe tying, buttoning, and zipping. I have learned to handle my personal hygiene with stubborn grace. However, some cooking (chopping, etc) and deep cleaning are still slow and frustrating for me. They are nowhere near as efficient as I demand of myself. I practice longer to get better physically. I refuse to accept the limitation. My ultimate goal is to do it all for my man. I want to cook his meals with these one-and-a-half hands. I want to deep clean our home until it shines, all for him. I want to serve HIM. I want to care for him. My broken body can still rise up and give him everything he deserves.

    This is my daily mantra. It is my middle finger to disability and to weakness. It defies a world obsessed with comfort and “fixing” every imperfection. I choose to feel every tremor, every ache, every exhausting victory on my own raw terms. I lean on counters instead of rolling in chairs. I am held up by my lover’s grip instead of cold metal and plastic. I struggle one-handed. I am eager for the day when I can entirely care for the man I love.

    In a society that worships ease and vulnerability, I stand as a living, breathing, unapologetic rebellion. My legs may shake and threaten to give out. My left hand may be useless dead weight. However, my spirit is lava. I will keep going every single day. I will keep whispering filthy sweet nothings into my man’s ear at night. I will keep fighting with everything I have left.

    This is how I love.  
    This is how I fight.  
    This is how I remain fiercely, provocatively, alive.

  • Losing Friends and Achieving Goals Through Physical Therapy

    Losing Friends and Achieving Goals Through Physical Therapy

    I have been through a lot of physical therapy throughout the years. One thing that I noticed was that many people treat their patients as a protocol and not just a person. 

    It can definitely be life changing. Still, you may need to wade through a series of therapists. I will admit that— at first— I used my physical therapy as a way to indulge my social cravings. I did not speak coherently. It was not easy for me to speak. But, I felt great pride and took immense pleasure in being capable of speaking. (I was mute from June thirtieth- August thirteenth, twenty-ten).  

     I became absolutely starved of social interaction. Even my friends faded away from me once I got ill and became unable to go out. My body betrayed me, and doctors only shrugged. It felt like a life on pause type of sickness. It started small. Texts went unanswered. Group chats dried up until it became absolutely nothing. Not even a heart emoji. Like I had vanished. At first I blamed the timing. People are busy, right? Work, kids, their own drama. But then weeks turned into months. The invites stopped. Just silence. 

    For the first few years, a few hung around but they eventually had to live their own lives. They finished school. Got jobs. They got married. Had babies.   All while I was drooling every time I went out in public and spent years in adult diapers.  I get it. Illness is not sexy. It is not funny. It is not a vibe. It is just… heavy. And nobody wants to carry that. But here was the part that stung: they did not leave because I changed. They left because I cannot keep up. Could not laugh at their jokes. Not pretend everything was fine. So they ghosted—not out of malice, but out of convenience— people vanish when it becomes too hard to stay. 

    At this point in my life, I needed someone to gossip with about the shows I was watching. I also wanted to discuss current events with them. Thus, I used physical therapy to cure my newly found loneliness.

    All the while I was desperate to recover but the many therapists I saw did not care about my recovery. They gave me false hope and promised to fix me. 

    Essentially, physical therapy only appeased my craving to chat. No tweaks to the recovery plan. No follow-up questions. They simply saw me as a paycheck. Someone who they could put through cookie-cutter exercise routines while they were on the clock. It seemed like a scam. 

    Now I have a physical therapist who actually watches how I move. He sees that I am compensating for my lack of strength in my left side. We both love sport. I no longer desire to talk about television or popular culture. So, I still get a good battery recharge from the quick recap we do during our sessions. But he also applies sports knowledge to the exercise program that he designs for me. It is crucial for me to understand the why behind my actions. I don’t want to be treated like a robot on a conveyor belt. 

    I also love getting to walk and I absolutely adore that he acknowledges it. He allows me to explore walking around without any cane or walker. I get teary-eyed when I am allowed to operate like a regular human being. It seems silly. Stupid. But it means so much. No one else did this for me. I find that odd because it is the point of my ultimate goal in physical therapy. My goal in physical therapy is walking around by myself on my own. 

    Good physical therapists exist. They are the ones who treat you like a person, not a protocol. And they will stay— not dismiss you because you do not fit conveniently into their narrative.