Kat’s Musings

Tag: short-story

  • The Rise of Comfort: Embracing the Free-Bra Movement

    The Rise of Comfort: Embracing the Free-Bra Movement

    Remember when getting a bra that actually fit felt like a sacred, slightly humiliating pilgrimage? We would trek to the mall, hearts pounding, ready to surrender our bare chests to a stranger armed with nothing but a measuring tape and a clipboard. Victoria’s Secret was not just a store—it was a temple. And the goddess was that perfectly coiffed sales associate with the tape dangling around her neck.

    You would stand there in a tiny fitting room that smelled faintly of vanilla candles and desperation, arms raised while she poked, prodded, lifted, and adjusted. “Okay, honey, breathe out… now inhale… A cup? Or is that a B on a heavy day?” Brassiere itself sounds like industrial equipment. We endured it all for the promise of “lift and separation,” for the illusion of perfect, perky cleavage that could launch a thousand thirsty glances in high school. We contorted our bodies, sucked in our stomachs, and prayed the underwire would make us look like a goddess instead of committing war crimes on our young teenage bodies.

    Those were the days.

    Fast-forward to now, and the entire ritual has collapsed. I do not even think most women under 36 could tell you their real bra size if you held a gun to their head. We have collectively ghosted the fitting rooms. The measuring tape is an old relic only used by the boys now. Victoria’s Secret angels? Still gorgeous, but we are no longer buying what they are selling—literally.

    Instead, we are out here living our best soft-girl lives in cute little bandeaus, buttery-soft sports bras, and those barely-there bralettes that feel like a gentle hug from a cloud rather than a structural engineering project. No more wires digging into our ribs (I have a large ribcage!) like medieval torture devices. No more adjusting straps in public like a nervous tic. We are free-boobing it through Zoom calls, grocery runs, and yes, even date nights if the vibe is right (plus, my man enjoys my itty bittys).

    Let’s be real—this shift is not just about laziness. It is a quiet revolution.

    Society spent decades telling us our boobs needed to be contained, supported, weaponized. Push-up bras. Minimizer bras. Convertible bras with more hooks than a slasher film. We bought into the lie that comfort was secondary to looking “put together.” All for the boys to pay attention to us. That a proper lady had to have everything strapped down and presented like gift-wrapped perfection.

    Then came the pandemic. Sweatpants became uniforms. Loungewear went mainstream. And suddenly, we realized something revolutionary: our boobs do not actually need constant structural support to be valid. They are not structural hazards waiting to collapse. They are just… there. Soft, warm, part of us. And when we stopped squeezing them into unnatural shapes for eight hours a day, the world did not end. In fact, it got better. For me, nothing changed whether there was a pandemic or not. So I was free- boobing before it was “cool”.

    Woman sitting cross-legged on bed reading a book in cozy bedroom with natural light
    A woman enjoys a quiet morning reading a book in a sunlit bedroom.

    We discovered the joy of the bandeau—that rebellious little tube top that says, “I’m cute, I’m comfy, and I’m not apologizing for jiggle.” Sports bras that handle actual movement without turning us into armored tanks. Wireless wonders that whisper sweet nothings like, “Girl, breathe.”

    And let us talk about the knowledge gap. Ask a group of women their bra size today and watch the panic. “Umm… medium? Whatever fits” We have stopped obsessing over the numbers because the numbers were always a scam anyway. Bra sizing is notoriously inconsistent across brands. One store’s 32C is another’s 34B. It was all smoke, mirrors, and marketing.

    Ditching the heavy-duty bra is not just about comfort. It also is about reclaiming ownership of our bodies in a world that has long tried to dictate their shape, size, and presentation. I personally prefer being on the Itty Bitty Titty Committee , but advertisements and media companies love to shove triple Ds and Sydney Sweeney in my face…

    We are done performing for the male gaze with engineered cleavage. Done pretending that underwire equals empowerment. The free-boob movement—yes, I am calling it that—feels like the only level of body positivity I accept. It says: my breasts do not need to be edited, lifted, or minimized to be worthy.

    Of course, not everyone is on board. Older women clutch their pearls. The fitness bros complain about the materials in said bras. Some days even I miss the old sculpted look, but mostly I love sliding into a soft bralette and feeling like my natural body is enough.

    We traded poking and prodding for stretchy, breathable freedom. And I do not think we are going back.

    So next time you catch yourself reaching for that lacy, restrictive contraption out of habit, ask yourself: Do I really need this? Or am I just performing femininity from 2007?

    Throw on the bandeau. Rock the sports bra. Let them breathe.

  • My Cringey, Hungry, Blonde Obsession Years

    My Cringey, Hungry, Blonde Obsession Years

    When I was young, I was obsessed with Britney Spears (another basic bitch tendency). I know today she is a total mess, but there was a time when my walls were covered in pictures of her—I was straight-up obsessed with Britney Spears. The one with the flat stomach, tiny outfits, and that “Hit Me Baby One More Time” schoolgirl fantasy that made every pre-teen’s hormones go haywire.

    My bedroom walls were a full-on Britney shrine. Posters from floor to ceiling, magazine cutouts taped up in my closet. I wanted to be her — that perfect blend of innocent and filthy, the girl every guy wanted and every girl secretly envied. People definitely thought I was a lesbian back then. I mean, can you blame them? I was plastering my room with images of a half-naked pop princess. 

    And yes, I took it to the extreme. During the darkest days of my eating disorder, I followed her old workout routine religiously. Twelve hundred sit-ups a day. That was my way of insuring that I was working off every calorie I was forced to eat. No exaggeration. I would lie on my living room floor, starving, counting every crunch while imagining my stomach getting as flat and tight as hers. (Sometimes it would be until two in the morning and then I would be up at six). That kind of obsession is not cute — it is unhinged. But at the time it felt like devotion. Britney was my thinspiration, my goddess, my unattainable fuck-you to my own body.

    Then eighth grade hit and I had a full personality 180. I ditched the pop princess fantasy and became the ultimate “surfer girl.” Still skinny, but not glitzy and glamorous. You know the type — sun-bleached hair, golden skin (spray on tans FTW), that effortless, just-fucked beach vibe. I traded in my old wardrobe for head-to-toe Abercrombie & Fitch and Hollister. I lived in those graphic tees and low-rise jeans that sat dangerously on my hip bones. I wanted to look like I just rolled out of a beach bonfire with sand still in my hair and saltwater on my skin.

    I begged my parents to send me to surfing camp in California. I actually went all the way to Australia chasing that fantasy life. I studied the skinny beach bum girls like they were my new religion — the ones with long, tangled blonde hair, tiny bikini bodies, and that lazy, seductive way they carried themselves. I dyed my hair with platinum blonde streaks and spent hours perfecting the windswept look. I wanted to be the girl guys stared at while I walked down the beach carrying a surfboard, all tan legs and collarbones. 

    This was right in the middle of my most extreme anorexic era, too. The thinner I got, the better my “surfer girl” costume fit. My hip bones jutted out, my thighs did not touch, and my stomach was concave enough to make those Abercrombie shorts hang just right. I was starving myself into the aesthetic. Every wave I caught, every mile I ran, every skipped meal was part of the transformation. I was not just playing dress-up — I was trying to disappear into this fantasy version of myself: blonde, effortless, desired, and dangerously thin.

    Looking back, it was wild how seamlessly I went from worshipping Britney’s polished, sexy pop-star body to chasing the raw, sun-drenched, barely-there surfer chick fantasy. Both versions of me were starving — literally and figuratively — for the same thing: to be wanted. To be the fantasy. To be the girl that made people lose their minds a little.

    I chased that high hard. From bedroom Britney dances to riding waves, bleaching my hair until it snapped, and counting every single sit-up like it would bring me closer to perfection.

    Those years were intense, messy, desperate for attention, and strangely formative.