The Netflix series I had mentioned watching was With Love, Meghan—the show about Meghan Markle and her [failed] attempt at creating a new life for her family here—and I cannot stop thinking about it. Not in the way the headlines want me to. Not with the usual swirl of opinions and side-eyes. Just… watching a woman move through her own home with care, intention, and this soft, steady devotion that feels almost radical in how ordinary it is.
From the first episode, what struck me hardest was how unapologetically housewifey Meghan is. My boyfriend says that I am similar to her. Someone who wants her man all to herself. So much so that she would take him away from his family. Meghan is not performing domesticity for the camera; she is living inside it. You see her in the kitchen of that Montecito house, sleeves rolled, hands in flour or carefully arranging herbs she grew herself. The way she talks about a simple roasted chicken or a lemon cake is not about showing off some glossy, unattainable lifestyle. It is about the quiet satisfaction of feeding people you love. She lingers over the details—the smell of citrus on her fingers, the way a perfectly set table can make an ordinary afternoon feel like a small celebration. There is something deeply grounding about watching someone treat the everyday acts of homemaking as worthy of attention and joy.
That same devotion shows up in how she speaks about her family. The way her voice softens when she mentions “H” (Harry), the little private smiles when she talks about the children, the careful way she protects their privacy while still letting you feel the warmth of their life together. It is not grand declarations. It is smaller, truer things: the ritual of making breakfast, the shared garden, the decision to build a home that feels safe and soft after years of public pressure. You can sense the deliberate choice she has made—to pour herself into creating a peaceful domestic world. In a culture that often treats “housewife” like a diminishing word, Meghan wears it with quiet pride. She makes it look like strength.
And yet so many people still seem determined to misunderstand her. I used to skim the surface-level takes myself—until I actually watched her move through these spaces The criticism often paints her as calculating or performative, but what I saw felt like the oppositeb(and do not tell me that it is all an act— I have seen Suits — she is not that good of an actress!): a woman who has been through intense public scrutiny choosing, again and again, to invest in the private, nurturing parts of life. The gardening, the thoughtful hosting, the careful attention to how a home can hold people. Those are not the actions of someone chasing relevance. They are the actions of someone who has decided that devotion—to partner, to children, to the small rituals that make a house a home—is worth more than the noise outside.
There is a particular tenderness in the way she approaches hospitality on the show. Friends arrive, and you watch her light up at the chance to care for them—pouring drinks, arranging flowers she cut herself, making sure everyone feels seen. It is the classic housewifey impulse, elevated by genuine warmth rather than obligation. And when she talks about wanting to share these simple pleasures, it does not land as branding. It lands as someone who found peace in these acts and wants to offer a little of that peace outward.
I keep coming back to how misunderstood that whole picture feels. People reduce her to headlines, to old narratives, to whatever version of her fits the story they already decided on. But With Love, Meghan shows something softer and more consistent: a woman building a life around care. Around cooking for the people she loves. Around making a home that feels like a refuge. Around showing up, day after day, as a devoted partner and mother in the most unglamorous, beautiful ways.
Watching it left me with this unexpected sense of calm. In a world that constantly pushes women to be more—more ambitious in public, more visible, more everything—there is something quietly powerful about choosing to be deeply present in the domestic sphere and finding real fulfillment there. Meghan does not apologize for it. She does not dress it up as something else. She just lives it, camera rolling or not, and that sincerity is what stayed with me long after the episodes ended.
Maybe that is the real gift of the series. Not the recipes or the pretty gifts (though those are lovely), but the reminder that devotion looks different for everyone—and that for some of us, the most meaningful work is the work of making a house feel like home, of pouring love into the people who live there, of treating ordinary days as something worth tending with care. I am glad I watched. I am even more glad I let myself see her without the usual filters. Housewifey. Devoted. And, I truly believe, still so often misunderstood.
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