I love football. I love the first Patriots kickoff of the year, that stupid surge of hope. I even love pumpkin spice, the whole corporate autumn circus, the lattes that taste like a candle and a dessert had a baby. What I do not love is being cold. Being cold all the time is depressing as hell. It does not feel seasonal or charming. It feels like the air is quietly stealing from you.
Everyone else is out here romanticizing the -ber months like September through December is a personality. Sweater weather. Cozy season. Holiday magic. I am not buying it. I am not looking forward to any of it. Maybe that is because I do not have a man here to warm my feet, so I sleep in my fuzzy socks like I am hiding from the temperature. Fuzzy socks in bed. Slippers and socks all day. I look like I am preparing for a blizzard that never quite arrives. Cold is not “crisp.” Cold is just uncomfortable. It makes the house feel like it is working against you.
What I actually want is a body next to mine. Not the holiday version. The everyday version. Cuddle weather should not be a seasonal event. I want it when it is raining, when it is ugly out, when there is nothing special happening. This time of year just turns the volume up on the distance. I loathe that part. The earlier dark, the extra blankets, the empty side of the bed all start sounding the same sentence: he is not here.
And still. I love the holidays. I love that he visits. I love the stretch of days when the house finally has another pulse in it and my parents and I briefly look like an actual family instead of three people orbiting the same rooms. He does that. He stitches it together. Those visits are the only reason I tolerate the rest of this stretch.
So here is the whole messy thing: I love that football is back. I love the ridiculous coffee flavors. I love being with him when he is here. I just do not miss the cold, and I do not miss having to wear a second life of clothes just to exist indoors. I prefer not to wear clothes at all. Autumn can keep its aesthetic. I want heat, contact, and someone on the other side of the mattress who does not disappear.
Kat’s Musings 