Kat’s Musings

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  • The Sun: Nature’s Medicine for Mood and Immunity

    The Sun: Nature’s Medicine for Mood and Immunity

    Modern day medicine turned the single most abundant, free, life-giving force on this planet—the magnificent sun—into Public Enemy Number One. Slather on the chemicals, hide indoors like a pasty little gremlin, and for the love of God, never let a single UV ray touch your precious skin. Meanwhile, humanity somehow survived ice ages, plagues, and zero SPF for hundreds of thousands of years without dropping dead from “sun exposure.” Funny how that works.

    Our ancestors were not cowering in caves with broad-spectrum lotion and a sun umbrella. They were out there hunting, farming, fucking, and fighting under the blazing sky every single day. Skin cancer? Melanoma? Those numbers stayed relatively quiet until the sunscreen industry exploded onto the scene in the mid-20th century. Suddenly we are all marinating in titanium dioxide smoothies and wondering why skin cancer rates keep climbing.

    He looks happy to me!

    Do not get me wrong—there are decent mineral-based sunscreens out there that actually reflect the rays instead of turning your skin into a chemical refinery. But the cheap shit most people glob on? That is basically endocrine-disrupting soup with a side of hormone messiness. The kind of goop that probably does more long-term damage than a mild burn ever could. Yet the “experts” keep pushing it like it is holy water while conveniently ignoring the data that does not fit their narrative.

    If you really want to see the sun’s power, look at what happens when you actually use it like nature intended. Andrew Huberman (neuroscientist chad who actually talks sense) hammers this constantly: get outside within the first hour of waking and stare at that beautiful bastard in the sky. Not directly—peripheral view only, soak it in. That morning light slams the reset button on your circadian rhythm harder than a triple espresso and a cold plunge combined.

    Man sitting in an ice-filled wooden hot tub drinking coffee outdoors in a snowy mountain setting
    A man enjoys a cup of coffee while sitting in an ice-filled wooden hot tub outdoors.

    Your body clock starts firing on all cylinders. Cortisol wakes you up properly instead of that pathetic artificial spike from your phone screen. Melatonin production later at night becomes sharp and clean because you did not spend the whole day hiding from photons like some vitamin D-deficient basement dweller. Low levels of vitamin D is associated with many autoimmune issues and fatigue/ depression. Blue light from lamps and screens at night? That is the real villain, flooding your house- wrecking sleep, mood, and testosterone. But sure, let us keep blaming the sun.

    People who get consistent, smart sun exposure report better energy, clearer skin, stronger immune systems, and yes—often better moods. The sun triggers nitric oxide release, helps with blood pressure, boosts mood via serotonin pathways, and is literally the reason you can synthesize vitamin D, which controls everything from bone density to immune regulation to cancer protection. That is right—proper sun exposure is anti-cancer in the bigger picture.

    Modern medicine loves a good villain. Cholesterol was the bad guy until it was not . Fat was evil until keto took over. Now it is the sun’s turn to be demonized so they can sell you more pills, creams, and procedures. Meanwhile, populations living closer to the equator with higher natural sun exposure often show lower rates of certain internal cancers and autoimmune issues when their vitamin D levels are optimized. But do not expect that on the evening news.

    The real message is not “go get third-degree burns, bro.” It is use your brain. Build tolerance gradually. Get morning light. Get midday sun when your shadow is shorter than you. Cover up or use good mineral protection during peak hours if you are pale if you want . Eat foods that support skin health. Stop treating the sun like a toxic ex when it’s been keeping life on this rock going since day one.

    We have become a society of fluorescent-lit, screen-staring, sunscreen-caked weaklings who are shocked—shocked—that we feel like shit and need SSRIs and sleeping pills. Maybe, just maybe, the glowing ball in the sky that every ancient culture worshipped for a reason is not trying to murder you.

    Men used to fight wars, now “men” like Bryan Johnston are hiding from the sun

    Get outside. Touch grass. Stare at the sun (responsibly). Feel alive for once.

    Your ancestors are laughing at us, wondering what the hell happened to their descendants.

  • A League of Their Own: Reimagining Feminism

    A League of Their Own: Reimagining Feminism

    In a world drowning in performative activism and corporate girlboss-ness, I find myself returning to one movie that actually gets feminism right: Penny Marshall’s 1992 classic A League of Their Own.

    The film does not lecture you. It does not scream about the patriarchy or demand that you affirm anyone’s feelings. Instead, it shows women rolling up their sleeves, stepping onto the baseball diamond, and proving they belong—not because someone owed them a spot, but because they earned it through talent, grit, and sheer stubbornness.

    Real Empowerment, No Victimhood Required

    Set during World War II, A League of Their Own tells the story of the All-American Girls Professional Baseball League. With the men off fighting, these women were not waiting for permission or special treatment. They tried out, competed fiercely, and played real baseball in front of skeptical crowds. The movie nails the tension between traditional expectations (“be ladylike!”) and the raw reality of sliding into bases, spitting tobacco, and throwing like you mean it.

    The women face ridicule, ridiculous uniforms, and mandatory charm school, yet they respond by getting better at the game. That is the kind of feminism worth celebrating: one that expands opportunity through excellence rather than lowering standards or rewriting rules.

    Tom Hanks delivers one of his most quotable performances as Jimmy Dugan, the washed-up, foul-mouthed and drunken manager who starts off dismissive of his new team. He dives into his arsenal of acting skills and proves to one of the greatest/ all encompassing talents to watch. His arc from cynical has-been to proud coach is pure gold, and his legendary “There’s no crying in baseball!” rant remains one of the funniest moments. Hanks does not mansplain or apologize for his initial attitude—he grows because the women force him to see their competence. It is organic character development, not a scripted takedown of toxic masculinity (because clearly there is no such thing!).

    The supporting cast is stacked in the most 90s way possible. Madonna as “All the Way” Mae brings swagger and showmanship, and Rosie O’Donnell as Doris provides heart and humor. Watching them now is oddly nostalgic—they were vibrant, funny, and unapologetic without being cringe with the heavy ideological baggage they now adopt. It is a reminder of a time when pop culture could just be fun instead of a constant sermon.

    The whole ensemble feels like a genuine team. These characters have flaws, rivalries, and personal stakes, but they are never reduced to their gender or used as props for a message. The feminism emerges naturally from the story: women being capable, competitive, and resilient when given the chance. Not women who think that they are superior to men.

    A League of Their Own celebrates women’s strength without tearing down men or pretending biology does not matter on the field (obviously women sports are not as competitive/ popular as men’s and that is OK). It shows sisterhood that includes healthy competition. It acknowledges hardship, (as the whole reasoning behind this team is the separation from loved ones during war) without wallowing in it. It is, thus, extremely patriotic—Most importantly, the women win respect by playing well, not by demanding it (*cough, cough * Women’s USA Soccer Team).

    In contrast to today’s discourse, which often frames women as perpetual victims needing protection from “the system,” this movie says: Here is an opportunity—go seize it. And they did. The real AAGPBL players inspired the film, and their legacy still feels refreshing thirty-plus years later.

    If more modern feminism looked like the Rockford Peaches—tough, talented, and focused on achievement rather than outrage—I suspect a lot more people would get on board.

  • My Cringey, Hungry, Blonde Obsession Years

    My Cringey, Hungry, Blonde Obsession Years

    When I was young, I was obsessed with Britney Spears (another basic bitch tendency). I know today she is a total mess, but there was a time when my walls were covered in pictures of her—I was straight-up obsessed with Britney Spears. The one with the flat stomach, tiny outfits, and that “Hit Me Baby One More Time” schoolgirl fantasy that made every pre-teen’s hormones go haywire.

    My bedroom walls were a full-on Britney shrine. Posters from floor to ceiling, magazine cutouts taped up in my closet. I wanted to be her — that perfect blend of innocent and filthy, the girl every guy wanted and every girl secretly envied. People definitely thought I was a lesbian back then. I mean, can you blame them? I was plastering my room with images of a half-naked pop princess. 

    And yes, I took it to the extreme. During the darkest days of my eating disorder, I followed her old workout routine religiously. Twelve hundred sit-ups a day. That was my way of insuring that I was working off every calorie I was forced to eat. No exaggeration. I would lie on my living room floor, starving, counting every crunch while imagining my stomach getting as flat and tight as hers. (Sometimes it would be until two in the morning and then I would be up at six). That kind of obsession is not cute — it is unhinged. But at the time it felt like devotion. Britney was my thinspiration, my goddess, my unattainable fuck-you to my own body.

    Then eighth grade hit and I had a full personality 180. I ditched the pop princess fantasy and became the ultimate “surfer girl.” Still skinny, but not glitzy and glamorous. You know the type — sun-bleached hair, golden skin (spray on tans FTW), that effortless, just-fucked beach vibe. I traded in my old wardrobe for head-to-toe Abercrombie & Fitch and Hollister. I lived in those graphic tees and low-rise jeans that sat dangerously on my hip bones. I wanted to look like I just rolled out of a beach bonfire with sand still in my hair and saltwater on my skin.

    I begged my parents to send me to surfing camp in California. I actually went all the way to Australia chasing that fantasy life. I studied the skinny beach bum girls like they were my new religion — the ones with long, tangled blonde hair, tiny bikini bodies, and that lazy, seductive way they carried themselves. I dyed my hair with platinum blonde streaks and spent hours perfecting the windswept look. I wanted to be the girl guys stared at while I walked down the beach carrying a surfboard, all tan legs and collarbones. 

    This was right in the middle of my most extreme anorexic era, too. The thinner I got, the better my “surfer girl” costume fit. My hip bones jutted out, my thighs did not touch, and my stomach was concave enough to make those Abercrombie shorts hang just right. I was starving myself into the aesthetic. Every wave I caught, every mile I ran, every skipped meal was part of the transformation. I was not just playing dress-up — I was trying to disappear into this fantasy version of myself: blonde, effortless, desired, and dangerously thin.

    Looking back, it was wild how seamlessly I went from worshipping Britney’s polished, sexy pop-star body to chasing the raw, sun-drenched, barely-there surfer chick fantasy. Both versions of me were starving — literally and figuratively — for the same thing: to be wanted. To be the fantasy. To be the girl that made people lose their minds a little.

    I chased that high hard. From bedroom Britney dances to riding waves, bleaching my hair until it snapped, and counting every single sit-up like it would bring me closer to perfection.

    Those years were intense, messy, desperate for attention, and strangely formative.

  • From Sugar Baby to Trad. Wife:

    From Sugar Baby to Trad. Wife:

    I will say it out loud, no shame: I used to want to be a full-on Sugar Baby. Not the cheap fantasy version you see online, but the real thing—pampered, polished, and possessed by a man who could afford to keep me dripping in luxury and attention. I was never on Seeking Arrangements or any of those sites, but when I got really sick, that dream became my secret lifeline. While my body was failing me, my mind was busy painting a future where I was not disabled anymore. I imagined myself as this feminine goddess: luscious long hair cascading down my back, completely hairless and smooth everywhere that mattered, skinny, full makeup—the whole package. The kind of girl men could not look away from.

    I joined a private Facebook group full of girls who knew exactly how to weaponize their femininity. They taught me how to dress, how to move, how to speak, how to flirt with power and money. Every post, every tip, every “how to make him obsessed” thread lit a fire under me. It gave me something to fight for on the worst days. While I was stuck in a wheelchair, I was mentally rehearsing the version of me that would turn heads and drain wallets. I wanted to be noticed. I wanted to be admired. Craved. Spoiled. Chosen. Deep down, I did not feel worthy of any of it yet—but that fantasy made me believe I could be.

    And then… it actually happened.

    When we first connected on Twitter (yes, Twitter, before Elon Musk saved us with X) the sugar baby lifestyle was all that I hoped for and I absolutely was not looking for anything real. Commitment? Hard pass. Feelings? Too risky. But attention and shiny new toys? Those I could handle. So that was what I settled for. I strung him along, playing it cool, dropping hints about what I wanted without ever sounding desperate. He read between the lines perfectly.

    He knew the game from the jump. I gave him a PO Box instead of my real address at first—safety first,—and every single week, like clockwork, a new package would show up. AirPods? Delivered with a cheeky video of him on the Apple website ordering them while I was lounging in Cabo, both of us convinced our flirty Twitter phase was fizzling out. A Pretty Woman DVD (yes, an actual physical DVD, the man has taste and nostalgia). Barstool Sports gear for days because we bonded hard over the unfiltered sports talk that made us both laugh like idiots. He spoiled me rotten, and I let him. No guilt. No apologies.

    Every girl should experience sugar baby vibes at least once. There is something powerfully feminine about being pursued, pampered, and provided for while you keep your little heart in a little locked box. The hundred-dollar Venmos, the surprise drops, the thrill of knowing he is thinking about you every time he swipes his card—it is intoxicating. It is not just about the stuff. It is the power dynamic. The way it makes you feel desired, expensive, worth the chase.

    But then it got real. 

    The constant contact—the good-morning texts, the voice notes that made me smirk in public, the weekends that turned into three hour-long FaceTime coffee dates—started cracking my walls. What began as “he buys me things, I give him attention” slowly became I can’t quit him. The sugar daddy arrangement was the gateway drug, but the real addiction was him. His humor. His voice. The way he matched my chaotic energy and then some.

    Now? He still pays my bills. No more random Venmos, but the support is deeper, steadier, sexier in its reliability. He is not just a sugar daddy anymore—he is my man. My love. My favorite person on the planet.

    Yet those Baby and Daddy vibes? They never left. They evolved into something deliciously playful and immature that keeps the spark filthy and fun.

    We act like absolute children together. The kind of childish that involves wrestling over the remote (when we are physically together), ridiculous nicknames, and the kind of uncontrollable laughter that turns into happy tears and breathless squeals. I have never laughed as hard in my life as I do with him. The squeals he pulls out of me—they are embarrassing and addictive. When we first started talking, I used to slap my hand over my mouth— hiding my crooked smile from his view. We are talking full-on belly laughs that leave my abs sore and my face hurting. Pure, unfiltered joy. The man makes me happy in a way I did not know was possible. The kind of happy that makes you glow, that makes everyone side-eye you like, “Who the hell are you right now?”

    There is something profoundly hot about a relationship that can go from “Daddy’s spoiling his baby” to deep, soul-quenching love without losing the playfulness. The power exchange is still there. He provides, I tease. He leads, I challenge. He has me feeling both safe and completely unraveled.  A feeling I never expected. I thought that I would be the other woman. Or a sugar baby. Not the main event. 

    So if a man is willing to show up for you like that—financially, emotionally, playfully—do not be afraid to lean in. Sugar baby energy is not about being shallow; it is about knowing your worth and letting someone prove they can match it. And when the gifts turn into genuine love, when the “arrangement” becomes “forever,” it hits different. Deeper. Wetter. Louder.

    I went from stringing him along with a PO Box to being completely, stupidly in love with the man who still makes me feel like the most spoiled and cherished woman alive—went from a sick girl who did not feel worthy of being looked at to the woman who gets spoiled, and loved so intensely/passionately it leaves me ruined for anyone else.

    And those squeals? They are just getting started.

  • Fragrance Obsession: A Journey through Scents and Memories

    Fragrance Obsession: A Journey through Scents and Memories

    My boyfriend is obsessed with fragrances in the most delicious way. He can spend hours watching reviews. He dissects notes like a mad scientist. He chases the perfect dry-down and obsesses over base notes. Years ago, he introduced me to Jeremy Fragrance. Back then, Jeremy was still deep in the fragrance rabbit hole. He was not preaching fitness and health yet. Now my man plays with layers of tonka bean. He experiments with creamy vanillas, warm spices, and light, fresh sea-notes. It is as if he was composing his own signature pheromone. I am not a certified nose. However, I have become dangerously good at finding scents. These scents will drive him insane. Those scents are especially anything heavy with tonka bean. The rich, sweet, almost edible warmth clings to his skin. It makes me want to bury my face in his neck for hours.

    I never really had “my” scent growing up. In college, I went through a shameless phase where I only wore men’s cologne—bold, woody, masculine fragrances that screamed confidence. (I even wore Old Spice deodorant). I did it on purpose. I wanted every man who spent the night tangled in my sheets to walk out the door carrying my scent. It lingered on his skin, his clothes, and his hair. Let his girlfriend or wife catch a whiff of something undeniably male when he got home. A little floral or berry note from me would have been too obvious, too sweet, too feminine. No—I wanted to mark them. Quietly. Dangerously. Provocatively.

    I NEVER EXPECTED THAT THE UNIVERSE WOULD PUNISH ME FOR IT—

    Now that I am proudly spoken for, I have embraced my own rotation of scents. These scents make me feel like pure sin wrapped in silk. I adore my YSL Mon Paris. Its massive, unapologetic floral notes bloom loud and wet on my skin. Then there is Baccarat Rouge 540. It is expensive and addictive, with its fiery saffron and ambergris edge. It feels like liquid luxury. I wear Kai Ali Santal Wedding Silk more often than I probably should, partly because of the ridiculously romantic name. But honestly? I steal his Missoni Wave constantly. It is fresh, aquatic, and a little citrusy. It carries that signature Italian warmth. It smells like him—clean and expensive, yet somehow still filthy in all the right ways. I spray it on my wrists. I also spray between my breasts and along the inside of my thighs. It mixes with my own scent to convey that he is with me. I do this with all of his colognes. I have a nice little collection so that I can smell him at every moment of every day. 

    In this collection is his Abercrombie cologne—the one we bought purely for the scent memories it drags up. That one hits different. It pulls me straight back to those dimly lit, aggressively cologned stores of my teenage years. It was the kind of place where the bass thumped low. The lights were turned down just enough to make everything feel forbidden. Half-naked male models stared down from every wall and catalog page like gods you were not allowed to touch. I remember standing there as a high school girl. I was desperate to buy enough clothes to finally belong. I wanted to look like one of those catalog girls. They had sun-kissed skin and tiny waists. They radiated that effortless “fuck me” energy. I wanted to be wanted that badly. I wanted to be the fantasy.

    Scent memory is such a beautiful thing. My boyfriend surprised me with Tom Ford Tobacco Vanille one day, and I became instantly obsessed. That rich, boozy tobacco takes me right back. The thick vanilla and warm spice remind me of the skinny French cigarettes. My “Auntie” (who is not actually related, but a really good family friend) used to smoke them when I was little. She smoked those elegant little sticks, lighting them with a flick of her lighter. The smoke would curl around her red lips like a dirty little secret. I used to crave sucking on those delectables when visiting a little French cafe in the future (I will never though, unfortunately, because they are no longer sold!) It is nostalgic and erotic all at once, like childhood innocence mixed with grown-woman hunger.

    Every spray now feels layered with meaning. His cologne on my body. My perfume on his neck after I bury myself in it. Our scents collide and create something new. It says we belong to each other in the most primal, possessive way. We are together even when we are apart. It is foreplay. It is memory. It is identity. It is pure, delicious obsession.